Let’s face it, we are social creatures. We learn and grow the best when we engage and interact with each other, sharing our treasured thoughts, perspectives, and opinions about the life we share together. That’s why it’s so important to speak up when you have something to say. In the long run, everybody benefits!
Is that not so easy for you? If you’ve ever heard yourself make any of the following statements, it might be time to strengthen your Lime Power of Conviction:
- “Speaking up is too painful. It only leads to debates that just make my stomach tighten up. I think I’m just naturally shy.”
- “I wish I did speak up more. I’m tired of getting pushed around by people who run everything because they just speak the loudest.”
- “My mom taught me to be nice, and expressing my opinions just seems argumentative.”
- “I hate it when people want to debate religion or politics with me. It makes me want to melt into the floor and disappear.”
- “I’m terrified of giving a presentation because I’m afraid my mind will race, I’ll trip over my words, and I’ll end up sounding stupid. It would be so embarrassing.”
- “Family holidays are the worst because everyone has an opinion about how I run my life, and I just can’t seem to make my voice heard.”
But wait! What if you accepted the challenge
and shared what’s really on your mind?
Chaya here….My friend Daria is married to a guy with very strong Lime Power. Whenever I’d visit her in Connecticut, Steve and I would be friendly to each other, but we never really connected.
After I started working with the Powers of Consciousness, I realized that my own Lime energy was really out of balance, and that I was uncomfortable with Steve because he always wanted to debate with me (about anything and everything). A growth opportunity!
The next time I went for a visit, I’d really worked on my Power of Conviction. So I decided that this time, when Steve wanted to “converse” intensely with me, I would not clam up. I’d stay present, speak up, and voice my own thoughts.
One night when Daria had gone to bed and I was just about to, Steve said, “Chaya, come watch the Bill O’Reilly show with me – they’re talking about this Terry Shiavo case,” which was a huge news story at the time about whether or not to unplug life support of a woman in a vegetative coma.
‘Here’s my chance,’ I thought. I straightened my shoulders, took a deep breath, called on my Lime, and followed him to the living room.
Of course when the show was over, Steve looked at me with burning eyes and asked, “What do you think they should do?”
I knew he and I would not be of the same opinion. The beads of sweat started to form on my forehead. But I went for it. I started to express my thoughts, weaving the facts together as I saw them.
We debated for about half an hour. It was spirited, but not argumentative. We both spoke, we both listened. We didn’t change each other’s opinions, but we both learned something.
When we were done and I stood up to go to bed, he gave me a big hug (which had never happened before) and said, “Thanks for watching Bill O’Reilly with me. That’s the best conversation we’ve ever had!”
I felt wrung out, but proud of myself for not disappearing. And now, thanks to my ability to ‘use my words’ even in the face of intensity, I have two friends to go visit in Connecticut.
Every voice is important. Use yours!
If you keep quiet, people will miss out on your perspective. Good healthy debates lead to well tested ideas. Get your facts straight, find out what’s true for you, speak up, and don’t be afraid to challenge things people say that just don’t add up to you.
If you strengthen your Lime Power of Conviction, you’ll:
- Discover your voice and realize that you’ve only been hiding that powerful mind of yours behind the word “shy.”
- Feel more confident in your convictions and be ready to stand up for them – even in the face of other people’s strong opinions.
- Establish deeper friendships, because you’re willing to keep a lively dialogue going, rather than disengage when things get uncomfortable.
- Find that many people will respect and appreciate your opinion.
- Be more willing to listen to the opinions of others, because you’re no longer too busy holding back what YOU have to say.
- Speak up about that job or promotion you want and set things in motion to land it.
- Feel clear minded, and be able to articulate your thoughts with ease – even on a stage in front of a room full of people looking at you.
2 ways to open up to your Lime Power of Conviction:
#1: Sing or say this affirmation until you believe it with your entire being:
“I express my convictions!”
#2: Take 7 – 21 drops of Conviction Vibrancy Essence daily. It will help you step up to the plate in a lively discussion and say what’s on your mind. No will have to guess where you stand!
It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it that creates conflict. Say it kindly, but just say it.
“We should know what our convictions are, and stand for them. Upon one’s own philosophy, conscious or unconscious, depends one’s ultimate interpretation of the facts. Therefore it is wise to be as clear as possible about one’s subjective principles. As the man is, so will be his ultimate truth.
~ Carl Jung
Let’s her what you have to say!