3 to 1. Apparently that’s the magic ratio that will lead you to flourishing in life instead of languishing.

Many studies have recently been showing that if you want to be truly, deeply joyful, creative, and open, you have to have at least 3 positive thoughts or feelings for every one negative thought or feeling.

It sounds easy, doesn’t it? Sure, with the Power of Optimism flowing freely through your being, it would be.

But, if you’ve succumbed to all the fear in the news, or if life has just knocked you around one too many times recently, perhaps this has gotten out of balance, and your Power of Optimism isn’t being accessed.

Here’s what it might look like if the negative thoughts are winning in your life:

• At end of day, you feel drained and exhausted. You go home, flop in the chair and fret about all the challenges you had to deal with today, and worry about the new ones you’ll have tomorrow.
• Everything just feels so heavy, soooo difficult. There seems to be roadblocks at every turn.
• You find yourself telling everyone you talk to about how rotten everything is – how stressed you are, how your mother calls up to complain all the time, how your dog pooped on the floor yesterday, what a mess the government is in….
• You’re just not having any fun. Everywhere you look, you see more reasons to give up. “Life sucks,” is your mantra.
• You’re whining about never getting ahead in your career. Clients don’t stick with you, your boss doesn’t give you a raise, people just don’t seem to want to work with you.

We’ve all been there, but have you gotten so used to the negativity and pessimism in your mind that you don’t realize how deeply it’s affecting you?

Do you want to remember the good stuff or the bad?

A good friend of ours was just showing us her family photo album the other day. There were wonderful pictures of her kids and herself and her husband, in all their ages and stages.

There were photos of them laughing, playing at the beach, huddling for warmth in their tent on a camping trip, roasting marshmallows over a fire, opening presents on Christmas morning. To us there seemed to be a lot of joy and many great memories.

This simple experience of looking at these photos turned into a little healing moment for our friend though….she told us how she barely remembered all of those experiences! That when she thinks of all the years of the kids growing up, she remembers the fights, the stress, the car shuttling in traffic, the messy house, the times they got in trouble at school or had their painful heartbreaks.

She remembered the negative stuff very clearly. But all the joy, the positive experiences, the laughter, the play – that was all fuzzy. (Good thing she’s got the pictures to remind her!)

Of course, our friend knows about the Vibrancy Path, so the next thing she said was, “Boy, I think I really need to strengthen my Power of Optimism! For all these years, my attention has been captured by the negative experiences, instead of focusing on all the positive ones. Wow, how did that happen?”

Positivity can help you live up to 10 years longer!

Use the Power of Optimism that’s at your fingertips.

As with all the Vibrancy Powers, this is a frequency in your energy field, just waiting to be called upon. It’s an energy that you can tap into to help you focus on the good in your life. Heal thyself of pessimism and see what life has in store for you! You will:

• Have plenty of energy to sink your teeth into life, because you’re not pouring it down the drain of misery.
• Discover that, no matter what people say, life can actually be fun! The good stuff has always been there, but now you’ll be able to really see it and feel it.
• Realize that when you look on the bright side, you see more options and opportunities for ways to make things even better.
• Find that you’re getting that raise or magnetizing more clients who just can’t wait to spend time with you and your sunny disposition.
• Accentuate the positive – and it’ll rub off on others. Everyone around you will start noticing what’s good about life, and the positivity will multiply.

Go ahead!

Take those lemons and make some yummy lemonade!

2 ways to tap into the Mocha Gold Power of Optimism:
 
#1: Tired of complaining about everything and seeing no sign of change? Here’s an affirmation that might help you turn that tide:

“I direct my thoughts toward the positive.”

We suggest you sing it to out loud or to yourself 7 times whenever you notice a “life sucks” mantra is filling your head. If it’s true that what you think about grows, then this is the perfect antidote to a gloomy perspective. The more you feed positivity and optimism, the more it will begin to play out in your life.

#2: Keep the Optimism Vibrancy Essence handy this week. Every time you feel like you’re slipping into the moan and groan of all that’s wrong in your life, whip out that bottle, take 7 drops, and open yourself up to what’s good.

Optimism is a choice.

“You can complain that roses have thorns
or rejoice that thorns have roses.”
Ziggy